How to Spot a Drama King/Queen?

You know this person. He always seem to make mountains out of a pile of grass. She always manages to be stressed by small events.

Interacting with this person is very exhausting, you often mumble or comment something like:
"I wish he wasn't such a drama king" or "there she goes again...sweating over small stuff"

Or probably you ARE the one receiving such comments from your friends and family? :)


How to tell if someone or YOURSELF is a drama king or queen?

1. This person can't seem to control her emotion. Always make a big deal out of everything.

2. Every words coming from his mouth is all about him, he thinks he's all that! All that he ever talks about is himself, being the coolest person on earth.

3. This human species always panicking all the time and the next morning seem to having a permanent memory loss of the previous day incident of having burden everyone with his problem.

4. A self-consumed man who likes to stir up drama. For instance: he might like to cause cat fights between two women for the pleasure derived from seeing two women fight over him.
Now, here's the difference between Drama King and Drama Queen: A Drama Queen overreacts over anything. A Drama King enjoys drawing these traits out in those around him. Especially if it can draw more attention to himself. In other words: a self obsessed SOB. The girls are screaming at each other! And Look at the drama king. He is just eating this up.

5. He or She is an attention whore, narcissist, self-centered and self-absorbed person (in today words: banci tampil).

6. Always complaining on everything! I mean EVERYTHING is always the worst to him/her. This is the worst day EVER. This is the worst coffee EVER. This is the crappiest movie EVER.

7. He thinks his life is on a crisis proportion, way bigger that the Palestinian. Puhleez!!! Get over yourself.

Hey Drama King/Queen, you are toxic to me, to us..and you know what....the complaint department is closed!

You dramatic narcissist weirdo! :p

Is My Playlist Harming (the ears of) My Colleagues?

Where I work, we are juggled into a not so big room consist of 8 persons (including me). With the pint size room, we can hear others speak, or sometimes if we really concentrate to eavesdropped, we can even hear someone whispers. Neat right?!

Someone - or is it everyone? - once mentioned that there is no secret in that room. This can be beneficial AND damaging sometimes. Meaning we know our friend's personal conversation, personal argument, personal problem, even down to the romance department. But, let's discuss this some other time.

When arriving @ the office we used to race on who will be the first to play music on their computer. Most of the time that person is me. Music plays an important driver to my work, just like coffee.

When arrive at the office the first thing I do is turn on the computer, and while waiting for it to start I make myself a cup of coffee. A moment later, coffee is ready and so is the computer. Then I turn on my secretary (Ms. Outlook), to refresh my calendar and emails. While waiting for my emails to load, I click the music application and select songs that I would be playing for the rest of the day.


The Playlist

Selecting the playlist can be flattering (or harmful) to my colleagues ears. But you know how each person is different right? How each person is individualistic depending on their own nature and character, my playlist is probably a reflection of my character. Again... let's not discuss character. Let's play it safe by discussing what songs/artists are usually (and most of the time) IN my playlist.

1. Acoustic. I am a big fan of Jack Johnson (the complete albums), so I frequently play his songs. One friend comment that he never realize what a big fan of reggae I am until he hears Jack around the clock (I sometimes play the complete discography the whole day - all 80 songs). By the way, Jack's music is TOTALLY NOT REGGAE!! It's called acoustic, people. Let's not forget Ben Harper, Matt Costa and Mason Jennings... they are all part of this genre.


2. The Quirky Tree Girls. Tori (Amos), Fiona (Apple) and Joni (Mitchell). Also have the complete albums and even DVD collections. I've been a fan of the ladies for a long time. Actually I like Joni first and I find that Tori and Fiona has similar music so, naturally I adore them as well. Try to listen to them and you'll fall madly in love as well. Not sure my roomies (at the office) would though.



3. The Alternative Genre. Started listen to this at the same time Pearl Jam release its first album. Pearl Jam, DMB, Soundgarden, Green Day, Gin Blossoms, Collective Soul, etc. One more thing, Even though Soundgarden is officially dead, Chris (Cornell) is still productive (be it Audioslave or going solo).


4. The Brits. The Beatles, U2, KT Tunstall, Lily Allen, Mika and Mark Ronson. My friends used to comments every time I play Ronson's Version. They said his songs are like anthems of police movies (the scene where criminals being chased by police in a car race).



5. Indie. Peter Bjorn and John is my new thing here, along with The Decemberists and The Hush Sound. So yes, I play them around the clock also (occasionally). One friend comment that he can tolerate some of Peter Bjorn and John's songs.



6. Actually I am not into R & B, but I make an exception for John Legend. He is just awesome and keeps getting better and better, don't you think? You should listen to his new album Evolver.

7. The Locals. Recurring playlist members are: Benyamin Sueb. Been trying to transfer my Ebiet G. Ade Collection to my office computer. I also enjoy Dewa (before Dhani's big mouth happen). I don't really like current and happenning local music, except for Andra's Sempurna - which I played around the clock and drove my friends crazy.




8. The Obvious. Miscellaneous Genre. I still consider myself a jazz and pop fan. I can listen to music from Sarah Brightman to Christina Aguillera. From Andrea Bocelli to Jason Mraz. Call me tasteless. Fine with it, as I don't adore a specific genre.

There you go.... will your ears hurt if you're in the same office room as me?
Probably yes, or probably yours even quirkier than mine.

Anti Smoking or Anti Smoker Campaign?

If you think this is cool, think again!

My dad and mum used to be smokers, but they quit like a over decade ago. Being a heavy smoker for like 20 years, my dad quit soon after finding out he has a heart disease and my mum (being the supportive wife) follows not long after. I still have a task of persuading (and threaten if have to) my brother to quit. Surely, no need to mention the serious implications to himself and others. Forget the environment for a moment.

This is about smokers and non-smokers.

Seriously......this is my third post about smoking and eventually I have to decide whether to post about the people who are actually DOING the smoking part.

They are called SMOKERS.

Personally I have nothing against them.....

Nope. Wrong! My mistake.
But...to think of it... it is kind of personal to me.




What's wrong with being personal?

It is personal when you feel like breathing (which is kind of your natural habit) to the already-not-so-fresh Jakarta air that has just been burdened by another pollutant.

It is personal to me when I sip into a nice cup of tea (that's right TEA, instead of coffee, as I'm trying to limit my caffeine intake) @ the warung kopi in Cikini with some friends and "accidentally" inhale some large amount of smoke release by a certain person into my lung.

This person is a very beautiful young lady (I have to say not yet reach to her 25th birthday) that decidedly with a mind of her own trying to shorten the life span of her amazing and soft skin (she was sitting quite near to me so I can see that she has great skin).



It is personal to me when a friend of mine arrive with a baby and decide to get another seat after seeing the young lady sitting next to me. Not because she felt threatened by her beauty (of course) but mostly because being the responsible mother that she is, it is impossible that she would let her 1 year old daughter breath that polluted air.

It is personal to me when that friend decided to get another (less comfortable) seat and table as far away as possible from that beautiful young lady.

It is VERY personal to me that I breath the polluted air (=smoke) that was released from her pretty mouth. I feel like receiving a CPR from her (with extra smoke).

Lastly.......I have nothing against smokers. Naaah.... I have EVERYTHING against smokers.